You Are In Charge

“Create a life that feels good on the inside , not one that just looks good on the outside” The truth is at one point or another in ones life they must come face to face with the truth about the quality if the kind of life they have been living. The truth hurts as we all say but sometimes the hurtful truth is just what we need in order to jump into action to make those necessary changes. In life you will come across the people that do not believe they can design their life according to their desires , and there are those that take on the responsibility and somewhere along the line their old way of being is in control of how they are designing their life. The reason why some people never take that leap of faith in creating the life they dream of is not only because they are afraid of the unknown but because they are afraid of being responsible for managing their life and time. Believe it or not for some individuals having a boss makes life easier as it provides them with a sense of order and structure. The facts is that not everyone starts out believing that they are the entrepreneurial type but that does not mean that because you do not believe it at first that it is impossible. It is very important that we are making conscious decisions that is serving our best interest, what do I mean by that ? It is important to have clarity of who you are and where you are mentally. Our ability to thrive after making life changing decisions depends on our mindset,level of maturity and our ability to commit.

Designing the life we love sounds great and at the same time terrifying while everyone desires to be happy and become blessed enough to find something they love or a career that gives them a sense if fulfillment. Making the decision to commit to designing our lives comes with that scary reality of one actually being responsible for their failures. In life you will come in contact with many people who for every downfall in their life they have someone or something to place blame on , which taking a leap of faith does not reward you with that privilege. Our level of success or failure is solely dependent on our level of commitment and ability to show up each and everyday. The saying goes “when the road gets tough the tough gets going” This statement is not in reference to one’s physical strength but their mental strength to be able to experience hardships along the way without throwing in the towel. On the other hand you will find people like myself that are extreme risk takers, always willing to do the very things that they are most afraid of , and fully committed to designing a life that they love that fulfills and grants us a sense of freedom. The problem is ever so often it is very easy to lose sight that you are In charge of your freedom and not allowing our duties on our pursuits of creating the life we desire to rob us of the opportunity to actually enjoy the process. I was hit with the realization just these past two weeks and I had to remind myself that you are in charge of your freedom and happiness. My husband went back to work after being home with us for the last two months and i will admit I became a little spoiled with having the privilege of locking in to work while he assisted with our daughter. Once he went back I realized that in this season of my life on this journey of purpose I would have to get comfortable with extreme flexibility. I had a discussion with my husband about the way I was feeling and you know that harsh truth I spoke about in the beginning was exactly what I got but was also what I needed to hear . His exact words were “ she is not going anywhere so you have to figure out how to make this work for her and you” it was painful to hear but it most certainly brought me back to the reality of why I quit my full time Job to have the freedom to make decisions that served me personally and purposefully.

“Forces Beyond Your Control Can Take Away Everything You Possess Except One Thing, Your Freedom To Choose How You Will Respond To The Situation.

-Viktor Frankl”

The thing about hearing the truth is you have to be open to receiving it and applying it to create a solution and sometimes those adjustments can be temporary and they can also mean doing things differently. I had to get myself out of that routine that I had boxed myself in to feel productive. I will always say I am not the day time nap type but I had to become that type in order to successfully continue to be a present and loving mother and continue to progress and thrive in my purpose. What that looked for me was to temporary commit to being a full time domestic engineer during the day doing a minimum of one work commitment during the day and working the night shift on my very important goals and commitments. The ugly hurtful truth reminded me that I must never lose sight of the fact that I am the CEO of my dreams and at any given time I have to make executive and sometimes difficult decisions that will not only benefit me right now but in the long run. The result of me making this adjustment has rewarded me with more love, joy , and adventures daily with my princess and the ability to maximize my time later feeling full and whole from allowing myself to just be free and flowing. I share this to encourage all my fellow unapologetic souls that are actively and purposefully designing their life to remember that it is okay to breathe. It is okay to change courses and order as long as you remain focused and committed to the goal , but first remember why you got started and it was not to become slaves or prisoners to the dream. Work hard and effectively when it is work time, live out loud and blissfully when it is time to play. We have one life to live and as many opportunities as we receive to start over we do not have the privilege to relive those precious loving and teachable moments on our journey. Reclaim your power and never lose sight of why you got started remember your freedom and happiness is your responsibility.