The act of being in service is one that we all know very well; the problem with being in service is that many of us struggle with creating boundaries. They help us to not only be available for others but to effectively serve ourselves. The key to self preservation is to do all things with moderation, with a clear understanding that it is not only beneficial to us as people but to our health and well being. It is important to master the art of being relatable but not always accessible to everyone. Life has it's fair share of obstacles in a day for each one of us and although we all may not be having the same level of severity in our daily experiences ,the reality is we all have our own share of challenges. We must understand that we can only be as good to others as we are to ourselves , which simply means that we cannot effectively show up for others until we know how to take care of us properly and unapologetically. The idea of saying no or disappointing our friends and loved ones that depend on us and expect us to show up for them is a real struggle and fear. The truth is when we operate in fear we are doing more of a disservice to ourselves and the people we love , honesty is the best policy and key to developing and mentaining healthy communication and relationships. Lies breaks trust and creates unnecessary confusion and tension that can easily be prevented.

To be in service can be described as doing something kind or loving to a friend , family , spouse, strangers in need, and most importantly to self. In order to perform these acts the intention has to be pure to make sure that we have the right attitude and energy. Saying no or communicating how you truly feel respectfully may not always be liked or accepted but it is our choice to be honest despite our fears or worry that they will be able to appreciate and respect most. Being inauthentic in service can lead to creating a space built on a lack of trust. As a result giving the very people we desire to be in service to reasons to create stories about you based on your actions. Why do we struggle with serving authentically? Because we spend a lot of time serving externally and neglecting to serve our very intimate needs , mentally , physically ,emotionally and spiritually. Serving our self fully should be a choice daily or even better a way of life , before making decisions and accepting task we must check in with ourselves to be aware of what space we are in , do we truly want to do it , and can we afford to? Being disconnected from our true selves and needs limits our ability to be aware and make choices that are adding more than it is taking away from us. Even in doing the right thing we must always be mindful to create boundaries and a space that promotes self-love , healing , and an opportunity to recharge. The goal in life is not to be liked , or accepted by everyone , it is to be loved and respected for being true to yourself , having integrity , and honesty.

The need to be accepted or to be liked by everyone is a recipe for self destruction , life is a give and take we must know when it is time to be on the giving end and when it is time to be on the receiving end. Peace is what we all desire to have present and having peace is one that we are all deserving of . We must know that to have peace present in your life is a choice, which comes with making conscious choices to serve our highest self our true self and not our fears or insecurities. Be relentless in your pursuit of happiness , be deliberate about taking care of you first before serving others.